International Women's Day 2018
It’s easy to knock men these days, not all are bad. Without the love of my life I wouldn’t be here to celebrate International Women’s Day 2018.
When I lost my kidneys in my 20s my so-called women friends didn’t want to know. I no longer fitted in.
I remember breaking up with Tony saying he didn’t sign up for this. I was losing everything. I lost so much in those few months. I “ordered “ him away from my hospital bed, tubed up, on temporary dialysis, just recovering & getting my eyesight back from the initial effects of kidney loss. Once the poisons & toxins were filtered out I began to get my eyesight back.
I spent a whole weekend on my own terrified of what lay ahead. Monday came & in walked Tony with house brochures. The proposal was along the lines of “looks like we better get married”. I cried in his arms as he hugged me he told everything would be alright. Then I knew with his support that I’d get through it. Tough & all the effects of chronic illness this wonderful superman stood proudly at my side. When I looked sickly pale & gaunt he’d tell me I was beautiful & look lovingly into my eyes.
He has picked me up from trauma so many times. I often ask him why & he turns & says “I love you my darling, and I’d be lost without you”. I salute my man today because behind this great woman is My Man. To all you who have a wonderful man that helps you succeed give him a big hug from yourself for helping you achieve. I had a father who dished out so much terror, fear, hate and trauma that I could easily have chosen hatred & bitterness. Instead, I chose to chase happiness, being kind & feeling safe in a man’s arms.